Feeling of floating in the current of life;
I tend to think we all live in our own little worlds where, for most things, not very much merges with those of others. “Mutual understanding” is merely a guise, as words carry meanings so fragile that they assume different shapes as they cross the boundaries of these worlds. It is rare that either party recognises the deformation of the meanings.
A friend of mine asked if I had read Erich Fromm. I never came across his work while I was cultivating in the field of sociology. He is regarded as one of the Frankfurt scholars, which I am not a follower of.
What I found interesting, reading the descriptions given on the wikipedia, was his notion of the eight basic needs of a human being:
Relatedness (relationships with others, care, respect, knowledge); Transcendence (creativity, developing a loving and interesting life); Rootedness (feeling of belonging); Sense of Identity (seeing ourselves as a unique person and part of a social group); Frame of orientation (understanding the world and our place in it); Excitation and Stimulation (actively striving for a goal rather than simply responding); Unity (a sense of oneness between one person and the “natural and human world outside”); and Effectiveness (the need to feel accomplished.)
Suddenly, it descended on me like a ray of enlightenment. What an interesting list of ideas. Yes, I’d like all of these, please! If these were on a checklist, how many boxes will be ticked? … none of the boxes will be ticked, or at best, they seem very difficulut to be met. I certainly aspire to them, but the struggle entailed in trying to attain them fully seem, proportionately, enormous.
I am struggling, assuming, like many others, to establish myself as a unique individual rooted in society, recognised for my connections, knowledge, skills, and creative work, building up a loving relationship, secure with the sense of origin with an admirable family, with a clear mind to understand the world, and having a goal clearly aimed to and well within reach, enjoying the organic and harmonious relationships with others on the way, to have something accomplished before the end of my life.
There. A picture of a truly happy man.